Sometimes people find it difficult to understand why they are having difficulties with others or feeling sad, anxious or angry. Without a sense of why they are struggling it is difficult to find useful and effective solutions. Counselling is a process which aims to help an individual achieve greater insight and understanding concerning the problems with which they are struggling. It provides the space, freedom and support to enable people to examine more deeply the possible causes of current conflict and unhappiness. In psychodynamic counselling, both current and former relationships and important life events are considered, and their impact on current difficulties is discussed and evaluated.
The goal of counselling is to achieve a greater depth of understanding and an enhanced awareness of why we act, think and feel as we do. Once this insight has been achieved, people generally feel a sense of relief and release. Vital energy that was being used to protect the self against unhappiness, conflict or anxiety is now available and can be used for more enjoyable, creative and productive endeavours and relationships.
Counselling works best when a relationship of trust is established between counsellor and client. Studies have demonstrated that it is the personal qualities of the counsellor - his or her ability to fully engage with the client and to respond in a supportive and non-judgmental manner - that most determine whether or not counselling will be effective and helpful. It is this kind of supportive and non-judgmental relationship that I seek to establish with each and every one of my clients, no matter their background, problem or circumstances.